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When did you first realise you liked spanking (from childhood, etc)?

 

Corporal punishment was a part of everyday life in my childhood. I attended a mixed grammar school where corporal punishment was always threatened if you misbehaved. From about the age of 12 or 13, of maybe even earlier, spanking started to fascinate me. At school I often wondered what it would be like to be caned, although I was never so curious that I deliberately got into trouble as the idea still terrified me. I guess I was a bit older when the idea of being the person who had the authority to spank and cane first started to develop. By the time I was 18 and at university before I finally discovered that some people did actually enjoy being on the receiving end on CP.

 

 

Were you spanked as a child?

 

At home I was rarely spanked and if I was it was only a few swift slaps here and there, nothing that would be construed as a proper spanking. I did eventually get caned at school at the age of about 15, I guess, and it was without question a very painful and unpleasant experience, far worse than I had ever imagined it might be. Obviously there was no warm-up spanking first. It was actually rare for our headmaster to use the cane but when he did he would make damn sure that you never wanted to go back for a second dose. It worked for me. After that traditional six whacks across the bottom I was very careful to behave after that. To this day I’m convinced that proper CP, which as we all know is very different to consensual CP, is a very effective deterrent for 99% of people.

 

How does spanking someone make you feel? Can you describe the sensation?

 

When I had the cane for being late in school, I bore the stripes on my bottom for about a week. Then there was no choice, I had to endure it. I knew what my fate would be and although I braced myself for my punishment I still felt almost sick when it happened. But there was also a strange feeling of excitement from the adrenaline.

 

It’s a very different situation when I’m spanking women now as they always know they can say the safe word at any time and stop the scene instantly.

But there is that same adrenaline rush. An experienced Spank Daddy like myself would start by raising the endomorphin levels with a gentle spanking before giving the rush from the caning itself. If you are lucky you will experience an endomorphin/adrenaline rush that is better than an orgasm and maybe a  truly mindblowing orgasm too. Those women who are into spanking are still terrified by the pain they have to suffer to get there, but the end result is worth it.

 

 

Who are the women you spank? What do they do for a living? Are they mainly professionals?

 

 

Yes I guess the women I have spanked have pretty much all been professional, or full time housewives. I go for intelligent, sane women with a very clear idea of what it is they want or need. I prefer strong women to doormats, Being strong and submissive are not mutually exclusive. I would say that women in a position of authority in the day, love to give it up for a few hours in the evening. I find the most common professional women I have spanked have been teachers and nurses.

 

 

Do you ever have sex with any of your clients?

 

Yes, sometimes. Most of the women I meet are married and don't want sex to be part of it, they get that at home. What I offer is something entirely different for them. A few enjoy giving me oral sex after or even during the spanking. I always agree up front with the lady whether they want sex to be part of the scene or not, and I always stick firmly to the broad script of what we agree up front.  I never cross pre-agreed limits, though I do push them. Most ladies want to be taken right to their limits.

 

Do they ever masturbate while you are spanking them?

 

No, never, but some women have masturbated immediately afterwards as a release from the sexual tension the spanking has given them.

 

Do they ever spank you back?

 

Once or twice. When they do, you never get much more than a mild sting from it. Most spankees have no idea how hard you have to spank someone for it to really hurt, even with the cane or strap. It has to be more than a flick, though, I and a lot of others enjoy the more gentle sting of a quick flick with a cane, it’s a different sensation altogether from punishment, I did once visit a pro Domme and she gave me a proper good hiding, which I did rather enjoy.

 

Do men ever come to you?

 

I do get lots of approaches from men, but to date I have always turned them down, I am firmly hetero and the thought of having a semi-naked man over my knee doesn't appeal at all, I am sure the time will come though when I do take the step of punishing a man, but I imagine it will be alongside his female partner, that is something I would experiment with.

 

How do you feel afterwards? Is there a sense of anti-climax or guilt?

 

Exhilarated, and nine times out of ten, so does the lady. Once or twice I have felt guilty when I’ve reduced women to tears . On those occasions I’ve been horrified thinking that maybe I went  a bit too far, but on each occasion the woman put my mind at rest afterwards by saying that I had given them just what they wanted. At times like that they know they could have used the safe word but didn't. A lot of women say that they couldn't have taken another stroke, I always define the length of the punishment up front, a very specific number of strokes. The lady knows exactly when it’s going to end, which helps them get through it.

 

Are you addicted to spanking?

 

If you mean am I spanking people on a daily basis or seeing three or four girls a day, no. And I’m not sure I would want to. I enjoy the build-up on the phone and internet in the days prior almost as much as the spanking itself, it’s about creating a story for me, and then making the girl live the story through. So, yes, I probably do spend too much time online, and, yes, I would find it very difficult to give up completely, though unlike things like drinking and smoking, I can't think of a single reason for wanting to give it up. This interview first appeared in Scarlet Magazine

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